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I stand firmly by what is expressed here about desire and attraction. However, the decisions mentioned are my own choices. I do not advocate anything, nor do I tell anyone what to do in life. Everyone has the right to choose for themselves how to view the things discussed here. I am merely presenting my own stance on these matters and do not pressure you to accept them.

That said, it’s clear that many men today are driven by sexual desires, placing sex and affection as their top priority and fiercely defending this stance. The countless struggles and confusion that accompany it—the endless nights at clubs, approaching women, chasing after them, and pursuing that desire by all means necessary—reveal a shallow goal in life: chasing pleasure, and nothing more.

I’ve been there myself of course, caught in years of chasing, prioritizing desire, and trying to fulfill it. At one point, I believed it was me doing the chasing, I was identifying myself with it. However, I’ve come to realize that I had confused my own sense of self with this relentless drive—a drive that destroys everything in its path to get what it wants.

But why? I’ve asked myself this countless times: why chase anyone at all? I once declared that this inner desire must stop. Yet it didn’t. No surprise—it’s a psychological and biological conditioning of the brain. It cannot simply disappear. What changed for me, though, is that I stopped associating myself with its dictatorship. I began to question its meaning. It doesn’t seem rational to place sleeping with someone as such a high necessity—to chase after the wind.

So, this mind said: enough. No more chasing attraction. No more being a slave to this sexual drive or giving undue importance to fleeting pleasures. I made a clear decision: never chase, never seek to attract. Instead, I chose to be attractive—not through outward efforts to gain attention but by becoming someone inherently appealing. I now see the value of redirecting all that energy, time, and money spent on nightclubs and drinks into investing in myself—becoming someone worthwhile, someone attractive through actions, achievements, and state of mind.

Can this desire go away? No, it won’t. It’s ingrained in the male brain, rooted in our species’ long history. But it doesn’t have to control or dictate how I live. That’s a decision I could only make once I stopped identifying with this drive, once I stopped feeling as if it was me who wanted it.

Instead, I proposed to myself—not to you; I’m not your teacher or guide—to shift priorities. To channel this energy into something meaningful, something that could transform my life in unimaginable ways. No longer a slave to sexual desire, I’ve resolved to put it in its place—not letting it take control or authority over my actions.

From instinctual desire to ambition—that’s the shift. My priority has moved from sexual pleasure and relationships to achieving ambitious, life-changing goals. That’s where my heart lies: in action and in direction.

Besides, in today’s world, sex is mostly just another form of pleasure, like many others. It can never be fully satisfied. It leaves me with nothing but a memory. It doesn’t develop me the way other investments do—like investing in this mind and in oneself.

I am fully committed to this stance. If an attractive woman doesn’t show interest in me, then surely, I am not yet the person who commands her attention—and that’s normal. My priority lies in self-improvement: developing the body, the mind, and its capabilities—not to attract others, but to fulfill a pure desire for growth.

Many say, “Who you are is enough.” To me, it isn’t. Why settle for who I am now if I can become better? Smarter, more intelligent, more organized in living and managing the system of the mind—the motions of emotions, thoughts, and everything else. The mind is everything. The brain is the entire world to any human being. It’s the system through which we experience the universe itself via our senses. Without this brain, there is no world for us.

To truly improve and manage the mind, however, I found out that first I had to confront and understand the forces that dominate it. Hence first, I see it’s about ending the dictatorship of sexual desire—breaking free from its control and no longer identifying with its relentless demands. Once that was done, and after getting comfortable and accustomed to new system of priorities, can I begin to think about whether this desire, this drive, holds any value.

Desire is undeniably a powerful source of action and energy, its intensity fueling countless pursuits throughout human history. As the new priority system takes root in this mind, it finds itself thinking and exploring ways to redirect this energy—channeling it into something far more meaningful, creative, and transformative than fleeting pleasures. This exploration holds deep significance for the writer, as it feels like an opportunity to turn what once enslaved and controlled the mind—much like it does for so many other men—into a tool for building a richer, more purposeful way of functioning.